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Sometimes, though, it feels like we are past those days. After all, in an era in which same-sex marriage has been legalized across the nation, how could something as benign as a picture book featuring a girl being raised by two moms possibly still be a source of contention?
In the 1980's, Heather Barwick's parents were divorced, and she was raised by her mother and her mother's female partner. "Gay community, I am your daughter," she writes in an open letter published on The Federalist. "Do you remember that book, 'Heather Has Two Mommies'? That was my life."
“It’s only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved by their father each day, that I see the beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage and parenting,” they quote Heather as saying.
I was glad that I took the time to finally read Heather's actual letter in its entirety and without editorializing.
"I still feel like gay people are my people," she writes. "I’ve learned so much from you. You taught me how to be brave, especially when it is hard. You taught me empathy. You taught me how to listen. And how to dance. You taught me not be afraid of things that are different. And you taught me how to stand up for myself, even if that means I stand alone."
However, she goes on to write:
I have not walked in Heather's shoes, but the best we can do in this life is to love each other as best we are able. I'm not sure what Heather would have preferred... Assuming her parents divorced and her mother was a lesbian... what then? Gay people aren't going to just stop being gay. It is a reality they have to deal with, and that their families and communities will have to deal with as well. I take Heather's point, in a general sense, that it is important for children to have both positive male and female role-models in their lives, but that should not preclude same-sex families from raising their children as best they can, just as my wife and I are raising our son, and parents everywhere do likewise.